Cozy Moonchild Blog

Most people don’t understand that healing can make you less relatable.

When you live in survival mode for a long time, people learn how to connect to that version of you. The one who is always available, always responding, always filling the space. Conversations flow easily when you’re used to adapting, smoothing things over, meeting others where they are.

Healing changes that dynamic.

You start needing more honesty, more presence, more emotional safety. You notice when conversations feel strained or when you can’t speak freely without editing yourself. Some friendships lose their spark not because the love disappeared, but because the way you used to communicate no longer feels true.

There’s a quiet grief in realizing you can’t relate the same way you once did. Jokes land differently. Silence feels heavier. You find yourself holding back, not out of distance, but out of self-respect. Peace doesn’t perform well. It doesn’t force connection where comfort no longer exists.

I’ve learned that healing can shift relationships without anyone doing anything wrong. When communication stops feeling safe or natural, it becomes clear which connections were built on survival and which can grow with your softer self.

Being less relatable isn’t a failure. It’s an invitation—for deeper honesty, or for a gentle release.

With love and light,

Jojo

Cozy Moonchild🌙✨