Cozy Moonchild Blog

There’s something beautifully powerful about stepping into your feminine energy, especially after years of unknowingly being guided by masculine traits—driven, analytical, and always in survival mode. My journey to reclaiming this energy has been one of self-discovery, surrender, and deep healing. It wouldn’t have been possible without the support and sacrifices of my partner, who encouraged me to fully embrace this “soft girl” era. This journey isn’t about pampering myself every day, but rather about honoring my soul, nurturing my mind, and living in harmony with the divine feminine within me.

Integrating Analytical Skills with Intuition

Living fully in feminine energy doesn’t mean abandoning logic; it’s about blending logic with intuition. As I started trusting my inner wisdom, I realized that many of the best decisions I’ve made weren’t based purely on analysis, but on a gut feeling.

One of the clearest examples of this was back when we were still in Georgia. I had been struggling to find stable work for years, and then, almost out of nowhere, I was offered what seemed like my dream job—a bookkeeper position at a startup, making the most money I had ever been offered. It felt like the answer to our prayers. But as I dug deeper into the company’s practices, I realized something was off. In accounting, there are rules and standards that must be followed, not just for the company’s sake but for the legal and ethical responsibilities we have as professionals. I saw the company cutting corners, breaking laws that could be easily bypassed—at least until they were caught.

When they offered me the job, every logical part of me screamed to take it. We were not in a financial position to say no after years of struggle. My partner thought I was crazy for even considering turning it down. But deep down, I knew that taking this job would mean compromising my integrity. I had no doubt that when the company inevitably got caught, I would be the one to take the fall. I would be fired, and my name could be tarnished in the process. No matter how tempting the paycheck was, it wasn’t worth the risk.

That decision wasn’t easy. I questioned myself constantly—wondering if I was making a huge mistake by saying no to such an opportunity. But ultimately, I chose to trust my intuition. It was a moment where my analytical mind and my deeper wisdom worked together. Logic told me what was wrong with the company’s practices, and my intuition gave me the courage to turn down the offer despite the financial hardship we were still in.

In hindsight, it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The company did eventually shut down, and I would have been left out in the cold. But more importantly, I stayed true to my values, and that choice reinforced my belief in the power of trusting both logic and intuition.

Defining the “Soft Girl” Era

Before we dive deeper, let me clarify what I mean by the “soft girl” era. While social media may paint it as a trend of aesthetics, light colors, and luxury, that’s not what this era represents for me. It’s not about indulgence or superficial beauty; it’s about embracing softness as a lifestyle—one where I prioritize my emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. In this era, I practice self-compassion, allow myself to be vulnerable, and make space for healing and rest. It’s about living in alignment with my true desires and listening to my intuition, creating a life that’s deeply fulfilling and authentic.

Identifying Masculine Energy Traits and the Shift to Feminine

For a long time, I believed success meant constant striving—always having a plan and pushing through every obstacle. This approach worked for me when I was in survival mode, but over time, I began to feel disconnected from my intuition and creativity. The subtle signs were always there—overanalyzing everything, competing, and feeling like I had to win every battle to prove something.

One night, completely drained after pushing through exhaustion to meet multiple work deadlines, I realized something needed to change. It was a moment of clarity where I recognized that I had been operating from a place of masculine energy—constantly giving, never allowing myself to receive. In that moment, I knew I needed to cultivate a balance between my analytical side and my intuitive, nurturing energy. That’s when I truly started to soften, both toward myself and others, embracing the feminine energy I had been suppressing.

In day-to-day life, this balance is something I’ve learned to weave into small decisions. For example, I blend intuition and logic when planning my day—using my rational mind to create structure, but allowing myself the freedom to adjust based on how I’m feeling in the moment. I’ve also learned to trust my gut when deciding when to rest, even when my inner voice tells me to keep hustling. It’s in these moments that the power of feminine energy shines through, offering me a space to honor my needs while still achieving my goals.

Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Love

Softening meant stepping out of survival mode and moving toward self-love. For years, I’d suppressed my emotions to stay strong, but eventually, I had to confront the truth: survival is not living. Choosing self-love meant forgiving my past selves, honoring my needs, and making space for rest.

Looking back, I can see just how deeply drained I was this time last year. I was moving through life on autopilot, doing what I thought I was supposed to—just keep going, because that’s what everyone says you have to do. But I started questioning it all. Why couldn’t I rest without being labeled lazy? Why couldn’t I just stop for a moment to breathe? Physically and emotionally, I didn’t have the strength to keep going, yet I forced myself forward, not realizing I was experiencing postpartum depression.

In truth, I was already depressed before giving birth, stuck in survival mode. But the weight of postpartum added layers of exhaustion I didn’t recognize at the time. I had no support, no understanding of what was happening to me. It was as if I was expected to just keep pushing through, but at what cost?

One particular day, I hit a breaking point. I physically couldn’t keep going, and emotionally, I had nothing left to give. That’s when I made the decision to stop—stop the autopilot, stop the constant pushing—and allow myself to rest without shame. I canceled everything on my schedule and spent the day nurturing myself. For the first time in a long while, I didn’t feel guilty about resting. That day marked the beginning of a deeper relationship with myself, one where I started to honor my needs and recognize that rest isn’t a weakness but an essential part of healing.

Expanding on Third-Person Awareness

There is a profound shift that happens when you become aware of the “third person” within yourself—the part of you that observes your ego, your thoughts, and your emotions from a higher place. This awareness has become like a compass for me, guiding me through emotionally charged situations and allowing me to see beyond the surface of my thoughts.

Cultivating this third-person awareness was a gradual journey. I began by exploring practices that helped me clear and center my energy. One of the first things I committed to was a 15-minute chakra cleanse on YouTube, which I would listen to each morning. Over time, I noticed that these cleansing frequencies gave me a sense of clarity and calm, almost like wiping a foggy mirror clean. I also began wearing crystal bracelets—crystals like black tourmaline and amethyst—acted as subtle reminders to guard my energy, especially in spaces where negativity lingered.

I found myself drawn to rituals and divination, spending quiet moments studying my birth chart, life path number, and even candle magic for abundance and protection. Through this exploration, I discovered my empathic nature and how easily I absorbed others’ energy. By practicing third-person awareness, I started to recognize these energies as separate from my own, which allowed me to stay grounded instead of feeling overwhelmed by others’ emotions.

As my connection to this higher awareness grew, I also learned to control my thoughts more effectively. With time, I noticed that when I felt negativity creeping in, I could step back, observe the thought, and choose to reframe it. For example, during a challenging situation, instead of letting fear or self-doubt consume me, I would consciously shift my perspective and search for the lesson within the difficulty. By becoming an observer of my thoughts, I realized I was the one shaping my reality, and in this awareness, I found freedom and strength.

Call to Action: Reflect on Balancing Energies

As you read this, I encourage you to reflect on your own life. What areas are you still approaching with masculine energy—pushing, striving, or controlling? How can you invite more softness, intuition, and flow into those spaces? Consider small, actionable steps you can take each day to honor both your rational mind and your intuitive wisdom.

Closing Thoughts: Living Softly with Power and Purpose

Living in the soft girl era is an act of self-love and rebellion in a world that often values hustle over harmony. It’s about choosing to lead with intuition, softness, and inner strength, rather than pushing through with brute force. I invite you to reflect on the areas of your life where you feel most vulnerable and ask yourself: how can you empower those parts of you with love?

Create a life that feels aligned with your true desires, where work doesn’t feel like work but an extension of your joy. Honor your boundaries, protect your energy, and trust that the universe will meet you where you are. This era is about reconnecting with your spirit, finding grace in vulnerability, and remembering that life is not about winning or losing—it’s about creating, exploring, and living in harmony with your soul.

Sending you love and light, Moon Fam,

JoJo

Cozy Moonchild✨🌙